Sex: that’s the key word for pregnancy to happen, right? In the world of those trying to conceive, we’re always searching for new tips and information—basically, anything that might help us in the process. That’s why today we’re bringing a topic widely discussed among women who are TTC: sexual positions. Many women believe that this can help when trying to get pregnant, did you know? Science has not confirmed this, but we all know it’s no coincidence that we’re called “those trying”, isn’t it? There are always some of us who are absolutely trying everything (and then some!).
Does Position Help?
Let’s think about this: it’s possible that the more stimulating the sexual position is for the couple, the better, more passionate, and more forceful the release of sperm will be for the man. And of course, pleasure for the woman is excellent too, especially when both are fully engaged. In other words, what’s most important is that both partners are completely satisfied, but not everything depends on sex alone to get pregnant, as pregnancy is related to a very important factor: ovulation1.
Having sex during the fertile days is essential to truly aim for pregnancy2. And positions that bring more pleasure, creating a stronger connection for the couple, will always be the best, even just so we can feel completely comfortable. After all, sometimes the anxiety of trying so hard for a positive test can get in the way a bit.
Uterus Position
Do you know why some women pay such close attention to sexual positions? It’s because many believe that, depending on how a woman’s uterus is positioned, some sexual positions can make it easier for sperm to reach the right spot, increasing the chances of pregnancy.
This belief exists especially because a woman can have her uterus positioned in different ways: anteverted (entrance facing forward), retroverted (entrance facing backward), or in a mid-position.
So hypothetically, if the uterus is facing backward, a position considered good would be the “doggy style”, or any position where the man achieves pleasure from behind.
On the other hand, also hypothetically, if the uterus is facing forward, it would be best to have ejaculation aimed at easier sperm entry into the uterus in this position. In this case, women trying to conceive point to positions like “missionary” as more interesting. Well, this position might seem boring and clichéd to some, but yes, many women bet that this is one of the best positions to help you get pregnant.
Let’s Look at Some Positions Believed to Be the Best for Getting Pregnant
Side by side: Perfect for couples in sync, this position can make the woman feel comfortable and allow for deeper penetration for the man, as well as more caresses in the woman’s intimate area. Since the penis is a very sensitive organ, it’s believed that the deeper it goes (without causing discomfort to the woman, of course), the greater the stimulation for ejaculation.
Doggy style or from behind: This may be a favorite for some men and, in general, women trying to conceive assume that in this case, pregnancy would be more likely with ejaculation closer to the uterus.
Traditional missionary: For those with the cervix facing forward, they truly swear this is the most appropriate position to get pregnant. For these women, this position isn’t outdated at all—and they might be right: given the satisfaction it offers the couple, it could indeed be one of the best positions to get pregnant, since above all, what counts is the pleasure involved. And our tip for this is: spicing up a more traditional position is important, so going all in with the foreplay is always a good idea.
Elevated missionary: Woman under the man—this position is great for helping the woman reach orgasm, as the movements cause more clitoral stimulation, making climax much more likely. To achieve this, the man can raise his partner’s hips. Elevation can be achieved with pillows or with the woman wrapping her legs around her partner and him helping support her with his arms.
Cowgirl: With the woman on top, just as pleasurable as the “elevated missionary,” this position also increases friction on the clitoris for the woman’s orgasm, and may help the man ejaculate with more force due to the woman’s contact with the penis. In this position, the woman is in control of the movements, making her more aroused and consequently stimulating her partner more.
Reverse cowgirl: Here, with her back to her partner, some women believe this brings everything even closer to the cervix. And it really can be fun for the couple, especially since it helps them experience a lot of pleasure together.
Reaching orgasm together with your partner can help conceive!
Some say that oral sex can reduce the chances of pregnancy, because saliva would have a harmful effect on the cervical mucus. It would change the vaginal pH and put sperm health at risk. Nothing is scientifically proven; however, during fertile days, oral sex can be skipped, at least during this time, so save oral sex for another point in your cycle.
On the other hand, when it comes to positions for getting pregnant, what we really believe is best for those seeking a positive test is for the couple to reach orgasm. The essential thing would be for both to have a truly pleasurable, playful, light, caring experience, full of interest, respect for each other’s bodies, and strong sexual connection.
It’s also known that when the couple climaxes at the same time, not only is it very exciting for both, but there’s also an extra advantage: the sperm may be “pulled” into the uterus due to uterine contractions during the woman’s orgasm.
Foreplay
A great tip is to invest in intense foreplay and make love with lots of passion and affection. Put some effort into lingerie, accessories, and have an unforgettable night of love! Maybe the biggest secret is to make love as if it were the first time and to forget about “practicing” and positions, and instead, focus on having good sexual chemistry between the couple so the moment is more enjoyable and steamy!
Making love whenever you feel like it also helps a lot—while it’s essential to have sex during fertile days when trying to conceive, holding back desire just to have sex at the right moment can make the relationship feel overly scheduled (and the husband might notice it!). Have sex whenever there’s desire because everything will happen more easily, regardless of whether—like many women believe—you use the best position to get pregnant or not. Take pleasure in conceiving! :)
