A woman’s life undergoes a complete transformation when she finds out she’s pregnant, while her partner remains just a spectator, watching every step. Wrong! That idea might have fit in old times when motherhood was solely a woman’s responsibility and the man didn’t get involved in anything but supporting the household. But after all, how can we involve the father in pregnancy and how can he participate in every detail?
Expectant Father
Who says you have to be carrying the baby to feel pregnant? The father can be 100% involved throughout the entire pregnancy, of course, as long as he has the availability for it. Accompanying prenatal appointments, asking every question and clarifying every doubt he finds relevant helps support the pregnancy and even supports the mom-to-be.
Another aspect that enthusiastic dads really enjoy is ultrasound days. How wonderful it is to see your baby’s development, and even better to hear that everything is going well.
Choosing the baby layette and every detail of the nursery are jobs for dad too. Who said his role is only in assembling things? His opinion is very welcome and he will be very happy to take part and see that his input is important for this moment.
Visit stores together, look at models, and make decisions about the decor as a team. Everything will become more enjoyable and gratifying for the couple as they cherish every second of the pregnancy together, as it should be.
Women naturally become more sensitive during pregnancy—they cry easily and feel more needy than usual, even when surrounded by people. It’s also the father’s role to help her through these moments.
Talk to him about what you’re feeling and what you need. Ask him to be more involved in the day-to-day home life, as well as to share what’s happening in his day. At night, relax together and enjoy some time as a couple.
Some women, when they find out they’re pregnant, end up putting their relationship to the side to focus entirely on the pregnancy, leaving their partner out and this can lead to the relationship cooling off.
Needy Dad
Always remember, men also feel needy and at this stage may feel rejected or left aside, so be careful! Pregnancy should be a time of joy, care, and anticipation for both of you—after all, soon the fruit of your love will be born.
Massages, affection, dinners for two, a good movie, or maybe a quick weekend trip will help fan that flame. Making the most of your time together before the baby arrives is a great idea—this will make sure the mom-to-be feels supported, the father doesn’t feel left out, and the bond between you grows stronger every day.
When the baby arrives, things will inevitably change—your couple’s time will be drastically reduced due to caring for the baby, so make the most of it now!
Dad in the First Days After Birth
The long-awaited day has come—the baby is here to completely change your lives, bringing lots of joy, affection, worry, and care, and with all that, 24-hour dedication every day.
Your life and routine will change completely and for a while new plans might not be possible, especially evening outings, even more so if mom is breastfeeding exclusively, as is recommended.
After childbirth, a woman goes through a total transition—not just with her body returning to normal, but also psychologically, which can be shaken as her hormones stabilize.
But what few people know is that the dad can also go through this phase of emotional upheaval, and it’s far more common than many think.
The emotional transition starts during pregnancy and ends after the baby’s birth. Men spend this time getting ready for fatherhood to really sink in, which only truly happens when they hold the baby in their arms.
Paternal Baby Blues
If you thought baby blues were only common for moms, know that men can also experience paternal baby blues. However, it is less often diagnosed because few men seek help at this stage.
Don’t leave dad aside after the baby is born—just as we should include older siblings, dad should be 100% involved.
Breastfeeding is a job for mom alone, but it’s essential for dad to give complete support. Many women wean their babies early due to pressure from the father.
Dad should know his boundaries in intimate life during the breastfeeding period and respect that moment. Breastfeeding is a special time and shouldn’t be seen as a problem for the couple—talking is always best.
Ask dad for help with bath time, changing diapers, putting the baby to sleep, or even choosing the baby’s clothes. Getting the father involved as much as possible is the best way for the whole family to connect, without jealousy getting in the way. Dad, take advantage of the time while mom is preparing dinner or doing chores to cherish the little one, play, chat, sing… be happy!
See also: Dads Receiving the Pregnancy News
Photo: Lou Haach
