Being a mother is not always every woman’s dream, but when the desire to bring a life into the world or care for someone arises, many doubts and fears come along with it. How can a woman know when she’s ready to be a mother? Many questions appear about how to get pregnant, what to do after the baby is born, how the relationship with her husband or partner will be after the birth of the baby… There are so many factors that change in life that motherhood can be postponed because of these changes.
For a woman, motherhood begins in childhood; we are encouraged to play with dolls, play house, and similar games to awaken the maternal side. Since we are little, playing mommy and baby is a favorite game for some girls, and that’s when we can see that the maternal instinct was already born with that girl, and so choosing the moment to become a mother won’t be so complicated. But for some women, it’s not like that; knowing that the time to become a mother is approaching is still a mystery. Even more so nowadays, when priorities are more focused on professional careers, and motherhood is postponed later and later. The doubt for many women is how they will do as a mother: will I manage? Will I be a good mother? What will pregnancy, childbirth be like, and after all of that, how will I handle motherhood and also work, home, and everything else around me? These are very natural questions for such an important moment in life, which is having one or more children.
I Want to Be a Mother, What Do I Need to Know?
Being a mother involves not only the psychological aspect, but also the structural part of life, being ready for all the changes and expenses that a child brings along with the responsibility of taking care of a defenseless being who is totally dependent on us as mothers and fathers. Speaking of fathers… more and more doubts appear for the woman and often for the couple. Men tend to have more doubts about fatherhood than women about motherhood. The truth is that the father is born together with the child and for some, the surprise of the news of pregnancy can shake them up a little psychologically. There are men who do not accept the pregnancy immediately because of the weight of responsibility of having a child, but in other cases, it’s men who really never thought about having a child.
There are cases where both are crazy to have children and others where the couple has no desire at all, but the wish to get pregnant appears with time, it’s that thing called the biological clock! That’s why the ideal is that a couple should really make sure to enjoy traveling, going out, and having fun, because from the moment a family is formed, the world turns towards the little ones who have arrived. Of course, life doesn’t end for those who have kids, you don’t die to the social world after becoming parents! There are still ways to go out and have fun, but I guarantee the priorities are totally different from those of a childless couple.
For women like me, who didn’t have contact with children, at least not on a daily basis taking care of one before becoming a mother, motherhood can be a little scary, but you know what? Motherhood changes a woman, it’s as if a new person is born in the delivery room along with the baby. Women have the amazing ability to learn to take care of their children as soon as they give birth. How to hold, change, and even give a bath skillfully! I was truly surprised, even though I made some hilarious mistakes as a first-time mom. But in the end, everyone survived!
Being a mother is giving up, as I have already said in this post, and deciding to embark on motherhood is an internal decision that should not be made on impulse or simply because of family pressure. Motherhood brings a different perspective to a woman’s world on everything life gives you; all concerns focus on the new life that has arrived. I often say that even women who are deep sleepers, after becoming mothers start waking up at any small sound the baby makes.
Adoption is one way to be a mother, the only difference is that the child already arrives ready! The love is the same, the worries of an adoptive mother are just like those of biological mothers. For adoptive mothers, the process of adoption is like the gestation period, the anxiety is the same as in pregnancy. Choosing the right time and knowing if you’re ready is actually quite easy, just look within yourself and ask: Do I want to be a mother? If the answer is YES, then go for it! Motherhood is the highlight of a woman’s life.
See also: What It Means to Be a Mother – Confessions Every Woman Needs to Know
