The greatest dream in many women’s lives is to have a child. Carrying that little person who was created by you and who spent months developing as you transformed into a mother is an indescribable feeling. But life often surprises us in an unexpected and terrible way. When a child or baby dies, dealing with this type of grief can be the hardest thing in many people’s lives, but it is something that must be faced in order to move forward. Being an angel mom means carrying a feeling of anguish inside your heart forever. But there are ways to help ease that feeling over time so you can move on.
Pregnancy Loss
Looking from the outside, many people often cannot understand your bond with the life that was growing inside you. There are many feelings: sadness, frustration, guilt, anger, loneliness, among many others that a mother feels when she loses her baby during pregnancy. And since this is seen as less serious than losing a child who has already been born, not everyone may understand your pain. The best thing to do at this time is to lean on your family, your partner, and close friends. The support of these people will be essential for you to get through this and move forward with your life, whether by trying to have another baby in the future or simply moving on with happiness.
Loss of a Child
When you lose a child, the sympathy around you tends to be much greater. This is because the impact of such a young human losing their life is very strong for everyone. Seeing what happened touches every human being. But how to deal with the loss is the same as when you lose a baby during pregnancy. The feeling of being a mother at a time like this is an indescribable pain and something no one ever wants to go through. The support of those closest to you, once again, is the most important thing for you at this moment. 
How to Overcome the Loss?
In addition to the support of those around you, you need to do important mental work to overcome such a great loss. This is usually a time when you feel alone in the world and want to isolate yourself from everything. Fighting this urge, this feeling, is important. It is necessary to be aware that there are other people in your life who also need you and want to see you well. Other people also feel the pain of loss, even if it is not the same as yours, but knowing how to support others at this moment is also of great value, as people can imagine what you are going through. Many mothers blame themselves for the death of their children, even when they had nothing to do with it. This guilt is a very common feeling, but one that needs to be fought constantly. No mother wants bad things for her child and that certainly was not the case. It is necessary to think that you did everything you could during your child’s life and that this situation was beyond your control. The battle against guilt will be daily and very difficult, but it is also very necessary. Visiting a specialized psychologist can help an angel mom overcome her loss. However, these visits should not be forced by others. The mother needs to be open to this type of help, because if she is too closed off and unwilling, the sessions with the psychologist will not only be ineffective, but may also generate more negative feelings in the mother.
Unity is Important
Finding other people who are dealing with the same pain as you can be very helpful, especially during the period of mourning, when you go through many emotions all at once. Of course, this is not a definitive solution to your problems, but sharing what you feel with people who know this kind of pain can be positive, as you know you are not alone in this situation. There are several support groups that hold meetings for angel moms precisely so that the shared pain can be lessened in some way. It is not possible to say that you can restore the happiness you had before your child left. There will be a scar that remains forever with you, but it is possible and necessary to keep living. The decision whether to try to have another child in the future does not have to be made now. Go at your own pace, think of yourself, and focus on what feels most comfortable to you at the moment. Time will help heal this wound. As painful as it is, you will have to accept your new life, your new reality. Only then will you be able to start again. Losing a child is a pain that cannot be described in words. To be relieved, it needs affection, human touch, loving people nearby, people with the same pain sharing their experiences. To deal with this loss, it is necessary to have humanity around you. Being an angel mom means you have experienced the greatest pain anyone can go through in life. It doesn’t matter if you lost your child during pregnancy, as a baby, or as a child. The bond a mother forms with her child is very strong and never ceases to exist. It is important to seek help, gather strength to get up, and move forward. There is always a way for this pain to give you strength to keep going. See Also: Pregnancy After Miscarriage – When to Try Again? Photo: Nikon D610
